Thursday, 8 November 2012

Modesty is humility! by Adesewa Olarewaju


I'm sure you guys have been at a gathering where a stunningly dressed female walks into the room. Suddenly, heads turn, people’s attention are captured, especially males. What just happened there was the power of dressing; God’s intention was for us to use it right and he has laid down certain principles to aid us in using it rightfully.

The Greek word for modest is kosmious, which means orderly, well-arranged, seemly, or modest. Modesty therefore is a behaviour, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency.

Men are constantly fighting against lust, on a daily basis, it could be while making a quick trip to the mall or pulling up at the gas station or perhaps rushing down to the campus for lecture, they are constantly faced with battle against
flesh. I am sure that you will agree with me that it’s not their fault that God made them that way, to be attracted to women. Men are stimulated by what they see. This is where modesty comes in!

Some women are provocatively dressed; some are dressed like that in order to glorify the beauty of womanhood, or to flaunt their beauty, while others are dressed to lure men sexually and to call attention to themselves. What some ladies do not understand is that they are been Defiled in the hearth of some (not all) men because of the way they are dressed. Our dressing should not be the reason why a righteous man stumbles day by day. We are called to be our brother’s keeper, leading them towards temptation is definitely not a way of doing that.

Modesty in dressing is humility. One of the questions we ladies ought to ask ourselves is that; is my dressing today glorifying God or myself? Will I make a brother stumble today because of the way I am dressed? I guess what I am saying is that it’s all about your personal motives. Humility will enable you to honour God at all-time rather than honouring men, world of fashion, Hollywood or other Publications that promote vulgarities.

2nd Timothy 2:9  ” in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works”.



Modest in dressing is self-control, modesty is attractive. Modesty is to be distinctly different with our respectable apparel. Verse 8 of Timothy is telling us that there shall be no division or resentment in the church. Relating this to dressing, Paul has written to us that dressing should not cause any sort of resentment or quarrel among us but rather to focus on God with our holy hands lifted up high. It also goes on in verse 9 to address the women TO adorn ourselves in a modest apparel, so we are talking about something befitting, something that speaks well of US; comfortable and elegant. Remember! First impression counts (in social settings and in business world).

The verse then goes on to talk about good works, NOTICE the empathy been placed on GOOD DEED. Verse 10 Highlight the role that Christians should play in the church and outside of the church. It tells us that the most important thing is not just how we look but also how we act. It is sadden how some Christian has misinterpreted the early part of the verse and neglects the latter which explicitly highlight our role as a Christian.

Okay! Another point I will like to make which might be in contrast to my earlier point is that; we  should not be in a position however to  define a woman (or man) by his or her dressing; and ladies (& gentlemen) please DO NOT judge a woman by her Gucci or perhaps by her Louis V. My point is that let us endeavour to corrects those who do not know their right from wrong in a respectable manner. Let us graciously correct those who are immaturely and immodestly dressed. Let us warmly welcome them to our midst. We are not called to judge people but to be an example to others, we are called to live an exemplary life and to do good works.

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