Monday, 14 January 2013

The ABCD keys of Life! By Ayobami Sholola

I posted the first part of this piece and I bless God it helped most of my readers, if you are yet to read it, this particular one may probably be too early for you, so its better you start from the root. here is the link:
CLICK HERE... Its 2013! Are you Ready for it?

Today,  I want to share with the four keys that will help you get the most out of this year. Keys can be used to start something or used to open doors. It is my prayer that these for keys will start you off on the right foot in the right direction. It is also my prayer that you will use these keys to open the doors of opportunity that God places before you. I called this keys the ABCD keys of life.

A - Accept responsibility for your life

This is something that is hard for many people to do. Some people would rather blame someone else for the problems and difficulty in their lives. These are people that go around looking for someone who will accept responsibility for them. Someone who will accept responsibility for the way they live their lives and the choice they make. When things don’t turn out the way they hope, they have someone they can blame.

Accepting responsibility for ones life is not a popular concept in our society, because we live in a culture that cultivate a "not my fault attitude".
This basically means "None of your problems are your fault. Everything bad in your life is somebody else’s fault. Blame the environment. Blame the educator. Blame the government. Blame your parents. Blame anybody else, but it’s not your fault." If you get in an accident, it’s never your fault. If you spill some hot coffee on yourself, sue McDonalds; it’s their fault. It’s always somebody else’s fault.

We will never be a success in life and we will never make our lives count if we have this attitude. We must accept responsibility for our own lives.
The word of God says,  “Each person must be responsible for himself.” (Galatians 6:5). The King James Version say’s, “ For every man shall bear his own burden. ” The truth of this scripture is that you are responsible for your own life, either you  like it or not.

In life, we face two kinds of circumstances,  those one we ve no control over and those one we face as a result of our own choices.

Those circumstances which we have no control over may comes from the words and actions of others, economy, company decisions, weather etc.
 None of us knows what we will face through out this year. There are certain things that are going to happen regardless of what you do and how you plan your year. That is no excuse for not being prepared or having a plan.

Also, like I said earlier, there are some circumstances that we face as a result of our own choices, actions or lack of actions. But while we may not be in control of all the circumstances that we will face this year, we do have control of how we will act and respond to them.

We need to understand that there are three kinds of people in life.
·       There are accusers.
·       There are excusers.
·       There are choosers.

There are accusers. They always blame everybody else for their problems. Their favourite phrase
is, "It’s all your fault." It’s never my fault. It’s someone else’s fault.

There are the excusers. Excusers are people that always have an excuse for not making a decision or doing something. There’s always a reason why they can’t make the most or get the most out of their year. In the long run they end up being the losers. The Bible says, "A lazy man is full of excuses."

There are the choosers, they say, “I choose to accept responsibility for my own life, goals and happiness. I’m not dependent upon somebody else. I choose the direction of my life.” I’m not depending upon the crowd.

If we do this, we will already be a jump ahead in 2013.

B - Believe you can change

Stop saying, "I can’t" and start saying, "I can". The person that believes that they can change with the help of God will change. Philippians 4:13 (Jerusalem Bible) “There is nothing I cannot master with the help of Christ who gives me strength.”
Do you really believe that verse? There’s nothing I can’t master! That means there’s nothing I’m going to hit in the next 365 days, no problem, no situation, no circumstance, no hassle that I can’t handle, that I can’t manage, that I’m not competent to handle with the help and strength of God.

Many people never succeed in life because they believe they can’t change. They never enjoy life because life to them is just one big failure after another. They face a new year with regret rather than the joy of knowing that God has given them the opportunity to make a difference in their own lives.

The Bible is full of stories of people who changed because they believed that they could change after God touched them.

God called a man named Moses: “I want to use you to save a nation.” Moses said, “Me? I got kicked out of Egypt because I killed a guy. I’m a murderer. Now I’m out here feeding sheep. And on top of that, I stutter! I’m slow of speech. You want me to be the spokesman for a nation?” God said, "Yes. I’m going to use you."

God used another man named Gideon, when the nation of Israel was over run by the enemy: “I’m going to use you, Gideon, to save the country.” Gideon said, “Me? I am the youngest kid in the poorest family in the smallest tribe in the nation.” God said, “Yes. I’m going to use you.”

Now say this to yourself : With the help and grace of God I can overcome the past and face the future. I have new  way to handle my own life for this coming year. I believe and know I can change. Not on my own power, but with the power that God gives me.

God can use me and God can use you. The good news is God wants to use you. First you must accept responsibility for your own life.
And second you must believe you can change, that God can give you the power to change if you’ll trust Him.

Think and digest, I will continue with my C and D next week.

Have a blissful year.

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  1. The Bible says, "A lazy man is full of excuses."
    *covers face*


  2. I have not read the C and D but I have a feeling A is gonna be my favourite. Ayo, thank so much for this write up. Truly inspiring! I can't wait to read the C and D, then I can do my justification.

  3. Wonderful! ....i feel inspired! ...God Bless

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