Tuesday, 30 April 2013

The Pain of Rejection

"There's nothing like rejection to make you do an inventory of yourself" - James Lee Burke,

Ok. I hope this won't be too personal for me. Have you ever felt like the door is slammed on your face? The thought of throwing in the towel after series of let-downs. Rejection, it hurts. No matter what the size or severity, rejection is one of the biggest challenges to self-love. I have been there, in fact I lived through it, breathed and dined with rejection.If you read my piece  "In search of me" you will have seen the traces and scars of rejection I experienced. I don't think there is anyone who has not faced rejection and some are facing it right now as you are reading this. Is rejection part of our journey in life?

Tuesday, 23 April 2013

Greatness Comes With Obsession

As usual, I came on twitter to see what is happening around me, since twitter has become my news and learning app. Then, I saw these tweets from @omojuwa and they got me thinking.

" Hard not to get what you daily obsess about if your obsession is backed with effort" - Omojuwa

" Sir Alex Ferguson keeps winning because he is obsessed with winning. Greatness comes with its obsessions" -Omojuwa

" Arsene Wenger only needs to be obsessed with winning a trophy as he is with getting a top 4 finish" - Omojuwa

What readily comes to your mind when you hear the word OBSESSION? Is it the image of a guy who can get enough of a lady? A higher percentage of people believe that obsession is an evil, dirty vice. Obsession is a powerful force that gives focus and clarity.

Sunday, 14 April 2013


In the long run, we’re all fertilizer, that’s a guarantee.

But what about the other long run effects?

In the long run, we all learn that…

happiness is a gift we give ourselves.

being nice and kindhearted wins out.

going the extra mile pays off.

simplicity is the key to good life.

time is more important than money.

the best things in life are free.

Saturday, 6 April 2013

A Peak Into The Future

June 21, 2041

Dear Son,

Congratulations on your baby-to-be! I remember the feeling your mom and I had when we discovered you would be born, way back in 2014. I know, I know—it was a very long time ago. But I remember the anticipation and the angst we felt knowing we were about to introduce another child into this world.

I’ve intended to say something to you for a long time but never found the words. I guess it’s easier for me to write them than to say them to your face. I know it sounds cliché, but you’ll be raising your child in such a different world than the one you grew up in. Everything’s changed. In your early years, life seemed so easy; you were on top of the world. We hovered over you, intending to pave the way for your education and your career. We wanted you to know we believed in you; that you were special and could do anything you set your mind to. We wanted your self-esteem and self-confidence to be rock solid.

Thursday, 4 April 2013

Fear Can Be A Good Thing!

Courage is not the absence of fear, Courage is the mastery of fear - Mark Twain

You might have heard the popular saying ‘Fear = False Events Appearing Real’, Because I have. Many times People tell you not to be scared, not to panic, that all will be well. Yes, all will definitely be well, but I say, please be fearful!!!

Fear is an emotion designed to keep us alive. In our primitive days it kept us aware of our surroundings, suspicious of harmful situations and weary of unknown territory. Ask yourself, ‘Would you rather play it safe to not risk failure or would you rather risk failure to really live and do what your heart tells you that you should do?’

Fear helps us learn empathy and protects us from danger. But fearlessness, brain research suggests, is linked to lack of morality and hence, violent and criminal behavior - Unknown

Wednesday, 3 April 2013

Adesewa Olarewaju: THE TEA CUP & THE POTTER

I'm not sure if you are familiar with the teacup story; I have heard it several times, in fact in different versions.  Recently, I was listening to Joel Osteen’s sermon, and he told the story again, I guess it resurfaced at a good time…. So I thought I should retell the story to you; to the best of my ability.

There was a couple that loves to go shopping for antiques. One day they were in a small country store. Up on the shelve they saw the most stunning tea cup they had ever seen; it was magnificent, irresistible to the eye. As they stood there admiring it. Suddenly the tea cup began to talk. It said….

TEACUP:  “You know I have not always looked like this; there was a time that nobody wanted me. I wasn't attractive; I was just a hard lump of clay, gathering dust. Then this potter came along, took me, dust off some of the dirt off me and began to shape me and mould me. And I said “hey!  What are you doing?