Sunday, 4 August 2013

Surround Yourself With Positive People

We all have a purpose in this world; something that we were meant to do to make a difference and help make the world a better place. Each and every one of us has a special gift inside of us that makes us unique, and it’s only a matter of time before we realize what that special gift is, how to open it up, and how to share it with the world. After all, the world won’t know what you are capable of until you show them. Right? Tapping into this power requires a combination of things (i.e. Being optimistic about life, having a strong desire to positively impact the lives of others, and surrounding yourself with positive people.

If you’re the most successful person in the room… you’re in the wrong room. It’s important that you associate with people who are smarter, faster, and stronger than you so that you can learn from them and grow. It’s easy to have people around you when you have something going for yourself, however the people you have around you should have roles, otherwise they’re just taking up space, or worse, taking up your precious time. Whichever direction you choose to go in life, you want people who are with you, and who are ready, able, and willing to push you to get to your goals more efficiently.

Not everyone who is around your circle needs to be in your circle. There are some people who want you to succeed, while there are others who are just sitting back waiting for you to fail. They’ll smile at you, greet you, ask you “How’s business”, etc, all the while their hope is that you will give up on your dreams, or worse… crash and burn. They’ll be the first to critique, the last to support, and only when you start to gain momentum in your field, will they try to hop on board for their own benefit. If a person doesn’t add value to your life, they need to be subtracted from your life.

Give more of your time, energy, and effort to the people who are rooting for you, than the people who are against you. People who have no business of their own will want to get into yours; sometimes for good and sometimes for bad. Taking a step out on faith and pursuing your dreams takes a great deal of courage (something that many people lack) so be very proud of yourself. The pursuit you take to achieve your dreams and goals will sometimes upset the few who are too afraid to go after theirs, but it will inspire the many who are on similar paths.

Pursuing your dreams is a great way to weed out friends. If you want to know who your friends are, just ask for help! Your friends will make it happen; the latter will make excuses. It’s far better to have a small number of friends who are ready, able, and willing to help than to have a huge entourage of people who are just there for show. Know who your friends are, but most importantly, know who your friends aren’t. Don’t be discouraged if/when you realize that the people you’ve known for years, you’ve supported for years, etc aren’t your real friends. Use this evaluation process to discover who your real friends are and work directly with them.

If gaining success were easy, everyone would have it. You have to be willing to put in the blood, sweat, and tears required to build something from the ground up. The first person to invest in you is you. After creating a mission statement for your life, you then look for people who have similar missions and would be willing to collaborate with you so that you have a greater chance of success.

Not everyone who’s in a position to help will be willing to help, so connecting with people who are passionate about your cause is essential to your growth and development. Being critiqued, slandered, and hated all come with the territory of being successful, so be mentally prepared to handle it. Every person who has a story about their success can also share many stories about their struggles. If you don’t know how to handle negativity, rejection, etc, you’re not ready for success.

If someone has the power to make you give up on yourself, on your dreams, and on your goals, that means you didn’t want it badly enough. Never allow someone else’s negativity to affect your positive creativity. In fact, allow their negative energy to motivate you to prove to yourself that you can do all things. Turn your haters into promoters! Failure simply means that you’ve given up on succeeding. If you never give up, you’ll never fail!

Positive people are those who look to see the value in others and bring out the best in them. They care enough about themselves to care about others, and it manifests in the way they live their everyday lives. Negative people are those who look to find the flaws in others and bring out the worst in them. Avoid people who bring out the worst in you; embrace people who bring out the best in you. Surround yourself with positive people who want to see you do your best and are helping you become better.

By surrounding yourself with people who want you to succeed, you will have access to moral support, great ideas, and many other valuable resources that you might not have had otherwise. Sure you may know someone who is a genius, has access to everyone and everything, but it counts for nothing if they are unwilling to help you. If you are just getting started and don’t have a positive circle of friends/trust, a great way to open up the door for sharing and caring is to lead the way. Do unto others as you would like for them to do unto you.

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  1. So true my brother. Some people in your circle has no business being their. They will only slow you down on your journey to success.