Monday, 21 July 2014

More Than Enough

I made the above image from a tweet Mr Ayobami Oyalowo tweeted. It really struck me and those words were very true.

" I have made the choices that work best for me. I know I cannot please everyone, and that's fine" - Marlee Matlin

We sometime want to prove that we are without flaws, we want to fit into everyone's mould and plans. The pressure to be in everyone's good book and be the nicest guy around has been the death of most of us.
I have been in that shoe and even most people who claim not to be living based on anyone's rule are secretly, unconsciously hoping for someone's approval. Our nature for approval have driven us to do stuff which we might not do normally. We have tried to be "all things to all men" and in the process lose ourselves.

"When you stand alone and sell yourself, you can't please everyone. But when you're different, you can last" - Don Rickles

Our feelings of inadequate has driven to the edge and we are changing and we hardly recognise who we are anymore...suffering from identity crisis just because we don't want to risk being derided or excluded by the community.
We all must come to the fact and agree (not just nodding to) that we cannot please everyone nor anyone. It is a fact that people's opinion and expectation of us are usually via their own personal experience in life which are mostly very narrow and shallow and almost at all times inaccurate.

" For every seven people applauding, one person will hiss-boo, one will be indifferent, and one will be less than sane"

Lots of people who doesn't approve you sometimes do have different sets of values from you. What you place value on might hold less value to them and if we allow ourselves to try fit into their mould, we end up frustrated than usual. Knowing our values helps us to respond well to whatever external values people are trying to force down on us. A serious problem with trying to please everyone is that you might be forced to abandon your ideals.
People tends to class themselves into different classes, and wanting to make others who they feel doesn't belong to "their" class less important, if we allow such to get at us, we are surely to get very miserable.

" Believe me when I say this: you can't please everyone in concert, even though I still want to. Someone always wants you to sing a song that isn't necessarily on your set list" - Gladys Knight

The faster you believe that life isn't a race the better you'll be. The only person you have to prove a point to is yourself and the only person you have to be better than is the you of yesterday. We need to get rid of this crave to prove a point to the next person so as to focus on what really matter.

Your real friends will be there for you and support your decision, not force down their own view down your throat. We don't have to fear losing people who can't stand their "not approved" of our life. People that want to be part of your life will stay and help you without judging you. And those that want to leave should leave. Its our lives and we are the one who is in charge of it.

" I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” - Bill Cosby

Let's continue to do our best and improving each day, someone will see it and appreciate it.

I am Olawale
I am a reader, not a writer.